I recently had the privilege to learn some things about West Park Manor Personal Care Home located in the community of Charleswood on the western side of Winnipeg, Manitoba. As a member of the Canadian Adventist Long Term Care Association, West Park is committed to a “resident centred” care philosophy.
One thing that I learned is that it’s like a family there. But they go one step further. They actually put into writing their pledge to one another, a pledge that models the Gospel of Jesus Christ. As I share the contents of this pledge, let’s think about how our families would benefit if each member made a commitment to the words of this pledge. There are 5 components to it.
TO RESPECT MYSELF
To care for myself physically, emotionally and mentally; to take responsibility for the work that I have accepted and that has been entrusted to me; to accept responsibility for my own reactions and behaviours and my impact on others; to ensure my behaviour is respectful and appropriate at all times.
TO RESPECT OTHERS
To affirm and encourage others and to avoid uncaring criticism, impulsive remarks, hateful words, physical and emotional attacks and anything else that might dehumanize others; to treat others the way I want to be treated; to engage in conscious ethical personal and organizational decision making by posing questions such as:
“ If everyone did what I am proposing to do, would it be a better world? ”
“ What would my best self dictate me to do? ”
“ What would the people I most admire think about what I am proposing to do? ”
“ Does what I am doing look civil? ” … civil meaning courteous, polite.
TO COMMUNICATE BETTER
To share my feelings honestly and respectfully; to work at solving problems peacefully; to encourage an open system of communication and to promote teamwork throughout the workplace … in our case … throughout the family.
TO LISTEN
To listen carefully to others, especially those who disagree with me, and to take into consideration the feelings and needs of others (others’ feelings and needs) rather than insist on having my own way.
TO FORGIVE
To forgive others and myself, to apologize and make amends when I have hurt someone else (another), and to keep from holding grudges.[i]
Have you thought of how your family could benefit if each member made a commitment to the words of this pledge? I know that I have.
Until next time, my dear brothers and sisters, may God comfort you as He leads and guides you. May He delight you with the joy of His salvation. Amen